How do you know you are an equalitarian parent?

Different children react to different parenting styles --- Authoritarian, Equalitarian, and Permissive --- differently. Which style are you using? #parenting #kids
In our previous post, we explained the Authoritarian parenting style. This post focuses on equalitarian parenting style. An equalitarian parent believes that children should have preferences. Equalitarian parents give choices to their children. Rules are simple in such families. Equalitarian parents discuss the reasons behind the rules with their children. Parents using the equalitarian parenting style follow children’s needs and children’s instincts instead of imposing a decision.

How to check if you are an equalitarian parent

Motivated by Dr. Phil’s parenting quiz, we have set up the following quiz with ten questions to identify four levels of equalitarian parenting style: high identification with the equalitarian style, dominant behaviors for the equalitarian style, average or moderate behaviors for the equalitarian style, or low behaviors for the equalitarian style. Upon completion of the quiz, your level of equalitarian parenting style will be shown.

Different children react to different parenting styles — Authoritarian, Equalitarian, and Permissive — differently. An equalitarian style is suitable for some children, while other children may need an authoritarian or a permissive style. However, a consistent style is preferable within a family.

Equalitarian parenting style is collaborative, undisciplined, and reactive. Sometimes this style can be manipulative, both from parents’ and children’s side. 🙂

This quiz will answer of you are using an Equalitarian parenting style

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26 thoughts on “How do you know you are an equalitarian parent?

  1. Being that type of parent that ensures that the opinion of the kids are heard in the homes can be a good thing especially as regards strengthening the relationship between such children and their parents. However, there is need to be cautious towards granting all their request to avoid them going astray.

  2. High identification with the Equalitarian style that’s my result for the 10 question quiz up above I just took. I’m happy about the result actually. Parenting may differs from one to another but I do believe the bottomline is to raise a good child.

  3. I did try this 10 quiz you just posted and my result was High identification with the equalitarian style? Am I good enough? What does it means? Your article is so interesting hope my result in quiz was good enough or I am strict parents?

    1. It implies that you are NOT a strict parent. Please note that there is nothing bad in any parenting style. Parenting styles are outcomes of personality and necessity. Whatever works the best for a family is fine. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful week.

  4. What kind of parents you should become depends on the kind of children you have. Some children are tough to discipline, they never follow the orders. In that situation, the only parenting method left to you is authoritarian parenting. If your child is pliant and submissive than equalitarian approach is better. I have been a parent only for four months and I am yet to judge myself ad a parent.

  5. I like the few questions that came after the post. I don’t feel the need to make any further comment. The questions and answers says it all.

  6. High identification with the Equalitarian style. My result in equalitarian and authoritarian is the same. Maybe I am strict but sometimes I also allow things depending on the situation. The most important of all is that I want my children to grow up as a loving child and a good citizen with a kind heart.

    1. Definitely. Mixed method makes perfect sense. Reality is such that we cannot follow exactly one style.

      Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful weekend.

  7. This is really helpful to me as a parent. I have growing toddlers and kids are growing rapidly. Using equalitarian parenting could help on their up-bringing in so many ways. I was sometimes very authoritative. It really stressed me and perhaps stressed my kids too. Now little by little i’ll start to lessen my authoritative way of parenting. I would still read more about equalitarian parenting in that way i will be guided correctly on how to apply an equalitarian parenting.

    1. Any parenting style is fine as long as it suits very well for the family. Dynamically changing strategies, just like as you mentioned, is all that matters. Thank you for your wonderful comment and for sharing your plan. Wish you and your family a wonderful time.

  8. Equalitarian style is suitable for my child and me;m trying to make my kid to trust me and think that I’m not only a parent for him, I may be a friend, a rock he may climb on, a tree that he can hold on, etc. I want to like my son to talk to me everything and when he has a problem to come and tell me about it and never be ashamed to ask my help!

  9. Another self assessing post as a mom,Well,I think I love fairness and equity, So I leave room for explanations. I don’t judge or give judgement until I have heard from my kids the bone of contention and sometimes I give them free hand to make choices maybe on the kind of meals they want or they clothes, they need me to buy.yea,I could be that liberal. Maybe this type of parenting is my style.

  10. That’s neat that there are different types of parenting styles that can be implemented and tested. That’s need that there are different types of parenting styles that can be implemented and tested. I do agree that some children do you need to be taught discipline, goal setting, and other life skills appropriate for their learning style! Great topic and great information thank you.

    1. I am happy to know that you liked the information about different styles of parenting. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful week ahead.

  11. I loved the post. So interesting! I think we all should worry about knowing and improving our parenting style and this is really helpful. We need to see from the outside what we are doing as a parent because that’s the right way of realize if there is something we can correct and do better for our childs. Thank you so much.

    1. You are welcome. I am glad that you liked the post. Agreed that knowing about our parenting style helps a lot. Have a wonderful evening. Thanks a lot.

  12. This great piece because I have learnt on how to achieve fairness and equity in parenting. Before now I would think that no one can be equalitarian when it comes to parenting. And my old held believe is that each kid have to be treated according to his or her attitude and of course there will be favoritism. But this post changes lot of that and I must confess after the survey I see I have lot of changes to do in my parenting.

    1. I am sure you are great in parenting. These surveys are not to make any changes but only educational. Thanks a lot for visiting and commenting.

  13. Ooh, I learned about the different parenting styles some time in nursing school. I find that I know which style I want to be like, but it’s difficult to always be one way. Additionally, I have to change my approach with each child.

    1. So true. It is hard (and not necessary) to use exactly one parenting style all the times. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful rest of the week.

  14. cool…..although…some of those questions. of course they could have thrown me as I am an old fart and a grand parent now. the way we did things wasn’t necessarily the best.

    1. Haha … 🙂 I am sure parenting was hard then as well as now. Worries come with the package. I am sure you did your best, as well all parents try their best now. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. Have a lovely evening.

    1. Very true. I found the questions interesting as well as a little vague. Also, some questions are fit for all styles of parenting. I hid the scoring mechanism in the quiz plugin instead of displaying them. If you go to the original link I provided in the post (Dr. Phil’s parenting quiz link), you will find the ranges. I guess, Dr. Phil kept some questions like this but set the score-ranges based on his research findings.

      Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful evening.

      Best regards,
      Settle in El Paso team

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