A child asks dad, “Why are your breasts so small?”

I am sure the question in the title of the post, “Why are your breasts so small?”, has raised many eyebrows. Actually, this is the question Dear Son asked me today. Dear Son is four years old. As his Dear Dad, I was not sure what to answer. I am sure all parents have some strategies in answering children’s questions that are difficult to address.

The first possible answer

When Dear Son asked me the question, too many strategic answers flashed through my mind within a blink of an eye. The first one is, “Boys have small breasts and girls have large breasts.” Complications of this answer also popped up immediately. What if Dear Son goes to his pre-school tomorrow and starts telling his teacher, “Boys have smaller breasts and girls have larger breasts”, assuming that his teacher might not be aware of this important piece of information. This might be an information that our neighbors might be missing as well. Dear Son might consider it his responsibility to teach everyone such an essential finding.

The second possible answer

The second answer that I though of was a little bit based on how I can take the opportunity to encourage Dear Son to eat more vegetables. πŸ™‚ The answer I thought of was, “I did not eat much vegetables when I was little and that did not allow me to grow my breasts any larger than what I have now.” My brain short-circuited by a few possible consequences. What if Dear Son eats vegetables and keeps expecting that his breasts will grow. Or, what if Dear Son says that he does not want big breasts and he stops eating whatever amount of vegetables he consumes now. The third consequence again relates to his responsibility to teach everyone how to grow breasts.

A third possible answer

The third answer I thought of is, “Moms have large breasts and dads have small breasts.” While this is a fact but it will raise more confusions. Fatherhood does not necessarily lead to smaller breasts. Everyone with breasts is not necessarily a mother either.

The answer given

After a few embarrassing moments, I looked at Dear Wife with a help-seeking face. She helped me out — “When girls grow up their breasts also grow. Breasts of boys do not grow as much.” Dear Son just said, “Oh” and started to play with his puzzles. It appeared, he did not care much about the answer.

Concluding remarks: What is your experience regarding children’s questions that are hard to answer? Do you have any suggestion on “yet to come” harder questions?

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86 thoughts on “A child asks dad, “Why are your breasts so small?”

  1. A simple and truthful answer has not grow in to another question i guess.. at least just for kids
    1. Agreed! A simple and truthful answer is the best. Luckily this time Dear Son did not throw his repeated “why”s. Thank you for visiting and commenting! Have a wonderful day.
  2. My niece’s teacher once told my sister, “If you don’t believe what she tells you about what goes on in class, I won’t believe what she says about what goes on at home.” Of course this was said with tongue-in-cheek, but it gets the point across. The biggest issue I encountered was when my son asked about how people have children. I told him they grow up, go to college, get married and then have a baby. He was fine with this until, in first grade, a classmate’s 16 year-old sister had a baby. She straightened him out, and then he came home to tell me I was mistaken. Naturally, that led to a more detailed, but still g-rated, conversation.
    1. Haha πŸ˜‚ these are really funny stories. We are getting ready for the question — how people have babies. Your answer is cool—they grow up, go to college, get married and then have a baby. I will remember this as an answer. Hopefully, Dear Son will not find a counter example. Thanks a lot for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful day.
  3. there are even more questions on the horizon, answer from the heart and let science be the guide for you…. I teach 8th grade and have noticed we all begin with questions and at some point the questions change to ‘what do I have to know?’ ‘what do I have to do?’ and sadly, ‘will it be on the test?’ …… celebrate the inquiry and hopefully it will lead to a life of inquiry…. and wonder. Peace
    1. Thank you for the heads up. We will try to be ready over time. Sadly, questions like “will it be on the test”, is common even when kids grow up and go to college. I remember many of my classmates asking that question many times in every class. Thanks a lot for visiting our blog and writing a valuable comment.
  4. This was such a refreshing and fun read, to hear it from a dad’s perapective of the fun challenges of raising kids! Kids do have awkward outright cringe worthy questions that catch us off guard. And true, they really don’t care much about the answer or details since their attention span is usually in seconds!
    1. I am glad to hear that you liked the post. I agree that a kid’s attention span is short. Sometimes, Dear Son keeps asking why, why, why. After I answer, his response is just, “oh”, as if he does not have any interest on that matter. πŸ™‚

      I appreciate your visit and comments. Have a wonderful Thursday!

    1. Thank you for reading and commenting! I am happy to know that you liked the post. Wish you a wonderful weekend ahead.
  5. At some point dear son may ask why men have breasts. That question may be easier to answer as it seems to have something to do with aging.
    1. Or, it may be hard to answer because by that time Dear Son might be asking too many follow up questions. πŸ™‚ Thank you for commenting. Have a wonderful weekend ahead.
  6. Once a pupil remarked: Sir, you got boobies, you need to wear a bra.
    Everybody started to laugh, me included.

    I was overweighed and indeed it looked like small breasts.

    In the meantime I lost some weight …..

    Kind regards,

    1. Haha… that is hilarious, I mean, the student’s remark part. I love this simplicity about kids — they say whatever they feel without filtering and it is cute up to some point. I appreciate your visit and comment. Have a wonderful Friday followed by a great weekend.
  7. Hillarious πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚post I do understand being father it is difficult to answer the questions of your kids
    1. Yes, sometimes it is hard to answer such questions! Hopefully I will become better at it over time. πŸ™‚ Thank you for visiting and commenting.
  8. The little ones sure do ask interesting questions. They are so honest and direct! We should never lose that honestly in life.
  9. Best answer is a straightforward one 😊 I am looking forward for all the why’s of my own little one, unfortunately she was taken from us 😒
    1. Thank you for visiting and commenting. I am so sorry to know about your loss while I was reading your blog. I do not have words that can comfort a grieving mom. I admire your courage and strength. Your visit and comment are much appreciated.
  10. I’m glad Dear Wife jumped in with the perfect answer. With any of the other options, women with small breasts might have taken offense as well. πŸ™‚
    1. I did not think it this way but you are right. I will change the title to make sure readers clearly understand that this is about a child asking his dad a question.
  11. I don’t have kids yet so I can’t really answer your question but I really enjoyed this post. It made me laugh. Whenever I hear about these troubles, when kids ask you these weird questions, I try to put myself in a position to answer. I don’t know if I would have any better ideas than you did. Dear Wife’s answer was the best, though. I’ll remember that one just in case I need it in the future. Haha.
    1. I am glad to know that the post made you laugh. Sometimes the questions are so sudden that it is hard to come up with an answer instantaneously. Definitely, the answers must be correct as well as kid-friendly. Coming up with the kid-friendly version quickly is the hard part. πŸ™‚ Thank you for visiting and commenting.
  12. So true! my kid oftentimes asked questions but didn’t really matter whatever the answer of it haha! Good thing with it is we should still pay attention to them and not brush it off . They are so funny at times!
    1. Indeed. Kids are really funny. They are too curious many times. Thank you for visiting and sharing your experience. Have a wonderful evening.
  13. Mum’s answer nailed it. It’s better to have their questions answered as directly as possible.I teach kids in my neighbourhood, sometimes I wonder how they come up with such questions.A kid once asked me “Are children actually conceived after parents have sex or they fall from heaven?”
    1. I agree — direct answer at children’s level is always better. Of course, definitely kids fall from heaven; there is not doubt in that. πŸ™‚ Have a wonderful evening.
  14. Best play in this case is to tell the kid the truth. The question is not really awkward as the kid is merely curious and he deserves that knowledge since he asked. The response of the parent will determine the awkwardness of the situation.
    1. Agreed. An age appropriate correct response is the best answer. Kids ask questions because they are curious. We make it and feel awkward although it is the perfect time for a kid to ask such questions. Thanks for reading and commenting.
  15. Raising a child is a really difficult thing to do. Whilst you are trying to protect their innocence from the truth, the harsh and cruel world and the inappropriate content, censorship and being overprotective does just as much harm, if not even more. The difficulty lies in getting the balance right, the fine line between being a mature parent who is protecting their child from the knowledge of taboo topics or being an informative and realistic teacher. I hope that parents know when it’s the right time to give their child the knowledge required in this ever more transparent digital age.
    1. Such a valuable contribution! Definitely the key is to realize the balance. We hope we will be able to figure out the right time and the balance. Thank you so much for visiting and commenting.
  16. Why just your dear 4 year old son even I now a senior always had this in my mind and that is why should men have breasts at all (lol) With this frame of mind asking me to give you a sensible answer that would lead to no more further questions would not be quite a wise thing to do. Good your wife came to your rescue
    1. Lol πŸ˜‚. Yes, Dear Wife was the savior that day. She always finds the perfect thing to say in such situations. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful day.
  17. Little ones are always inquisitive, and they notice everything! It’s hard to know sometimes what to say to the tricky questions like this, especially like you said, little ones like to share new information with everyone sometimes! Your second answer reminds me of when I was little, my grandmother told me to eat onions because it makes your chest hair grow! Needless to say… I didn’t want to eat the onions. πŸ˜… Just a simple, truthful explanation works best!
    1. Haha. I agree — truthful answer (kids’ version) is the best. Thanks for visiting and sharing your childhood memory. Have a wonderful evening.
  18. This is funny. Kids are really curious and smart little one. There will always that time that they will caught you off guard with their questions. But be careful with your answers because they will always believe what you say.
    1. Haha πŸ˜‚ definitely. I noticed that my kid believes everything I say. They are so adorable and wonderful at this age. Thank you for visiting and commenting.
  19. Children are simply the most wonderful things in the world. They are so innocent and this makes it so hard to get mad at them for whatever reason. Remember in the story of the The Emperor’s New Clothes. Everyone could see the Emperor was naked and making a fool of himself. But it was a child, full of innocence and truth and all things good, screamed out loud – “But he isn’t wearing anything at all!” πŸ™‚

    That story cracks me up each time.

    1. Yes, I know the story. Thank you for sharing this here. Definitely, children symbolizes the innocence of the society. I wish we could think and be accepting like kids on many complex matters. Thank you so much for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful weekend ahead.
  20. Haha, sorry but I had to laugh! At least all of the possible scenarios and answers were only in your head. You did try your best to be creative and helpful though so you shouldn’t feel bad or discouraged. Us, women, are just naturally good at telling our kids how some things work… and fathers are good in other areas πŸ™‚ that’s why you have your lovely wife – you two work as a team! I am glad that she lent you a hand.

    Just be prepared for the future… there’s still a long way and a lot of questions such as ”where did I come from”, ”how does Santa deliver all of his presents so fast” and more!

    1. Yes, definitely moms are great at speaking with kids regarding complex matters. πŸ™‚ I agree, more complicated questions are yet to come.

      Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful week.

  21. You have chosen the correct answer that did not bring another question. To be honest, I am a dad and if my son were asking me this question I would give him the first answer :)))
    All the respect for you, because you know to handle much better with your son!
    1. Haha … All parents have their strategies. All strategies are fine. Kids will learn in a natural pace anyway. Thank you very much for visiting and commenting. Best regards.
  22. Ahahahaha I loved this post! This are the funny things that you can hear from a kid. And also the kind of things we struggle about how to answer. It’s always good to have people like you that share their experiences and give us funny answers too lol
    1. Kids are so much fun! Kids are so innocent. That makes it more adorable. Thank you for visiting and commenting.
  23. hahahahhahaha such a cute post. Kids always ask stuff when we are “out of our bases”. Since they ask so candidly, one is stripped from any ability of a quick rebutal! I have a great story like that. I was out in a family trip with my now fiancΓ©. He proposed, and my fiancΓ©’s sister told her five year old: “look, your uncle is gonna marry cookiemonster!”. Then, the kid asked “what for?”

    You just gotta laugh.

    1. Haha … That is a funny story. I have got my quote of the day — “What for?”

      Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful day.

  24. I was once told to always remember “KISS” Keep it simple stupid. I always seem to forget that when answering my kids’ questions. I always make it too complicated when all they want is a simple answer. Great story by the way!
  25. Funny and sensitive at the same time,Children would always be inquisitive and curious.They want answers to all questions even when they might not still understand the answers. Well,For me I tell them the fact and the truth that is it.
    1. Yes, a child’s version of the truth is the most effective one. πŸ˜€ Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful weekend.
  26. To be sincere here, I was attracted to this post because of the topic. I give you a thumb up!
    Honestly, children love to ask questions, they want to know why ‘this is this’ and ‘that is that’. Before, I do normally wonder how children learn a new language very fast when they are among their peers.The reason is that their brain is still very young and they want to fill that box up. So when they ask any question we must not lie to them we should just tell them the plain truth because they are eager to learn and teach anything if they see the available time but while giving them the answer to their questions,it must be given according to their level. I can still recall the day my kid asked me where does baby come out from in a mother, I reasoned within me that “where on earth does this girl get that question from?” I said when it’s time to deliver the baby, the mother will just go to the hospital and the doctor will help to take the baby out from her stomach.
  27. I really don’t understant those parents who respond with fantabulous stories. I see, they’re kids, but I think just being sincere and truthful. Kids are more clever than we think, and I can’t imagine a better person to explain the nature of things than their own parents. Cheers!
  28. What an amusing story. If I were in the same situation, I would have probably struggled for an answer as well. At times, the most basic things such as those deemed as common sense are the toughest questions to answer. Add in the fact that you are dealing with a kid, it gets a lot more trickier. You can’t exactly get too technical as it is too much for the kid and you can’t be too simple about it either.
  29. It’s very funny. Kids have questions that is so straight to the point and hard to answer. An example is when they ask “where do babies come from?” and “how are babies made?”. That is hard to answer.
    1. Ah … those questions. I am a bit scared when I will be asked those questions. I really do not know how to proceed with the answers to those questions.

      Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful weekend.

  30. Answering a plain and simple is the best way to deal with that kind of situations. Well it kind of embarrassing for us but for them they were only curious.
  31. This is one of the reasons why I preferred talking to children sometimes, they are too innocent and beautiful that you just want pinch their cheeks. They make life more bearable than adults lol
    1. Haha … definitely kids bring the joy and fun through their innocence. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful day.
  32. I guess, we just need to give them a very deep answer so they won’t bother to ask us any more about that kind of question anymore. Hahaha! But the real reason why man doesn’t have a breast or why a man does have nipples is that when we’re starting to develop in our mother’s womb, in the first several weeks, male and female embryos follow the same blueprint, which includes the development of nipples. However, at about six to seven weeks of gestation, a gene on the Y chromosome induces changes that lead to the development of the testes, the organ that makes and stores sperm and produces testosterone. That’s my two cents.
  33. I don’t have kids. I’m still 18 so it might be a while before I have to worry about questions like this. I’m sure a lot of parents dread these types of questions because you just don’t know what to say. How do you explain things like how babies are created or why girls have larger breasts to little kids? The best thing is probably to just give a kid-friendly explanation and then give a much better and proper explanation when they are grown up.
  34. Ha ha you have provided great answers. Children ask innocent questions that we cannot ignore. I, in my childhood days had asked my dad such innocent questions. I still laugh when I remember those questions and the answers given by my dad.
    1. Glad to hear that you had wonderful memories around those questions. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful evening.
  35. Kids are full of questions about everything in life. They even ask difficult and awkward questions, but we have to divert some topics because they can’t understand even if we explain it. Its funny how curious kids get and they have the innocence.
    1. Agreed. Sometimes it is hard to answer them but they won’t understand even if we give the actual answer, as you said. Have a wonderful week.
  36. I might not have an answer for such question if my little son would think of asking that in the future. I mean that is a question that I might have to think of calling 911 to get an answer for. You’re lucky your dear wife helped you out on this. As simple as she put the answer, it is correct. You have got a brilliant wife there!
  37. I just can’t get tired of reading your post. There’s always some level of humor to it. Kids are generally curious and ask way to many questions. I’ve had my own fair share of moments like your experience above.

    At one time, my four year old brother came to me and asked who GOD was. I can’t even remember my explanation, but I was able to satisfy him. He went on playing like nothing happened. Several minutes later, he appeared in front of me. Here we go again I thought to myself.

    How does God punish people? I didn’t know where to begin with. How do I explain this to him? I held his hand and walked him to mum’s room then whispered to his ears. Go ask mum, she knows everything.

  38. My child is four months old. A couple of years later, I am sure I will be faced with similar questions. If I had not read this article and a child asked me this question, I would have said grown women have large breasts. However, after reading this article I have the right answer. As a parent, we need to get prepared with embarrassing questions.
  39. Your post was funny, this time I have laughed but I think our kids are asking the craziest things in the world. The answers are good and I must admit I would never be thought of such an answer. We must be ready to answer them anytime they have something to ask, their curiosity must be satisfied at any time!
  40. Hilarious! Never did my kid ask me about that but if in case my toddler would I think the best answer is just to tell them the truth. Making up answers would definitely lead to another question and makes the kid more interested. By telling the truth it might save you more questions. But what if the kid is just to curious? Then I guess the answer your wife made would be useful!
  41. I remember asking my dad about this when I was kid, but unfortunately, I can’t remember his answer. I guess maybe I found his answer satisfying that I didn’t wasn’t compelled to go to my teacher for clarifications. That would have been beyond embarrassing. Kids tend to ask too much questions and parents have to be ready to give them questions that would both be acceptable to their age and wouldn’t be too safe that they would misunderstood the whole idea.
  42. I have a 2 yr old kid and he is starting to notice everything. When he saw his mom using a make up or a lipstick he will try to do it to himself as well. Basically he will touch everything that will get his attention. As a Father I can see my son getting curious in his environment. Everything is new to him. I guess it will be an opportunity for me to teach him and have a Father and son bonding time. I love this post!
    1. I agree. This is an adorable time. All times are perfect to connect with the baby. Thank you for visiting and commenting. Have a wonderful week.
  43. Kids will ask almost everything they want to know and understand even that though that sometimes it is none sense cause there are times that those questions can make a lot of sense. When we grow up we lose that kind of curiosity. When everyone doesn’t lose that kind of curiosity I feel somehow this world is bit better place.
  44. Kid’s are so curious that if you gave them an answer to their questions they will definitely answer you back “WHY”. Sometimes depends on the way we act and our gestures when answering their queries. Parents sometimes act, talk like their kids specially those only child for the benefit of playmates. So, it’s better when mother’s answer questions related physically.
  45. Kids now are very intelligent and you can’t easily twist their mind. There are cases that we don’t respond to their queries urgent because we’re thinking for alternates especially if the topic is very sensitive. It is our responsibility to guide our kids in better understanding different things as they grew up. Don’t expose them so early to the things that may affects their knowledge at younger age.
  46. My brother had a son and he’s 3 yrs old now, I’m not that close to them because I’m busy of my work but his son is always playing with my daughter. When I got home I spotted the kids playing in the garden and accidentally heard their conversation:

    Nephew: know what I ask my papa why is he having a flat chest and my mom had a big chest.
    My Daughter: (Quietly listening and starring at him).
    Nephew: and he told me he has super powers and he can make things flat as long as he like!
    My Daughter: Smiles πŸ™‚ (like she understand everything :O)
    End of Convo-

    Now I think of my brother as a crazy guy telling my nephew he has super powers. hahaha…
    Now my nephew loves to act like he has the same power as his father.. My brother save the day! lol

  47. A straightforward, honest explanation actually seems like it would be the most appropriate here. I would probably explain the purpose of breasts and how they’re designed to provide milk for babies. I don’t think it would be a difficult concept for a child to grasp.

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